Tell Your Story Free of Shame

EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems Therapy, EMDR Certification

Trauma Therapy

Trauma comes in many shapes and forms, but at its core, it impacts your self-worth, how you feel in your body, the way you function in the world, and how you react to different situations and relationships. Shattered trust and feelings of unsafety— whether caused by abuse, neglect, or emotional unavailability of a partner or caregiver early in life— can negatively impact brain structure and function, but through dedicated and diligent trauma treatment, clients can accomplish healing neural networks and a settling of their nervous system.

Trauma treatment at Restoring Clarity Counseling includes:

  • A holistic framework for understanding and working with trauma from mind-body-centered perspectives utilizing EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems modalities
  • Providing tools for emotional regulation and release offered by various somatic therapy practices in relation to working with trauma
  • Releasing trauma response patterns that have previously been inescapable
  • Letting go of the pain of the past in pursuit of your true self
  • Unearthing personal narratives and connecting to the emotional and somatic experiences that shape them
  • Positive change in self-perception and self-worth
  • Better understanding of your attachment patterns and development history
  • Insight into underlying processes contributing to current behaviors and emotional experiences
  • Insight into how trauma has informed your life and increased capacity for change
  • Explore a unified approach to trauma-informed care: including a deeper understanding of the body’s relationship with social, environmental, developmental, relational, spiritual, and cultural wounding and healing

EMDR Therapy

Negative life experiences can interfere with the brain’s natural processing capabilities. Depending on the nature of this experience, the developmental stage of the person impacted at the time of trauma, and the support available at the time, some experiences are not as easily recoverable as others, which creates psychological distress symptoms.

However, due to the neuroplasticity (a.k.a malleable nature) of the brain, if these events can finally be fully processed, healing can begin to take place. EMDR therapy is a means of achieving this. With stimulating eye movements, similar to the ones that occur during REM sleep, the brain taps into its natural rejuvenating and restorative state. When these eye movements occur, the brain processes information in a healthy and adaptive manner, which is why deep sleep is so good for your brain. In short, EMDR therapy can stimulate this same mechanism in the brain while an individual is awake, enabling the brain to follow its innate processes towards healing and control. 

Note: EMDR therapy is not hypnosis; therefore, clients remain in complete control and awareness during therapy sessions with me.

Somatic Experiencing

Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a naturalistic approach to the resolution and healing of trauma developed by Dr. Peter Levine, resulting from his multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices and medical biophysics. SE releases traumatic shock (freeze) and supports the body’s natural ability to regulate itself, which is key to transforming PTSD, chronic stress and the wounds of emotional and early developmental attachment trauma.

SE facilitates the completion of self-protective motor responses and the release of survival energy bound in the body, thus addressing the root cause of trauma symptoms, which can result in subtle or more intense experiences as the body discharges. This is approached by gently guiding clients to develop increasing tolerance for difficult bodily sensations, impulses, movements, triggers and suppressed emotions, so as to not get overwhelmed. SE employs awareness of body sensation to help people “renegotiate” and heal rather than relive or re-enact trauma. SE’s guidance of the bodily “felt sense,” allows the highly aroused or frozen survival energies to be safely experienced and gradually discharged. SE “titrates” your experience (breaks it down into small, incremental steps) so that you can remain embodied and present, rather than evoking a mindless catharsis or becoming flooded.

SE does not require you to re-tell or re-live the traumatic event, which is helpful in the case of pre-verbal trauma. However, working through the trauma narrative can be done more safely using SE, as it works more gradually to build capacity and resilience than typical prolonged exposure techniques. SE offers the opportunity to engage, complete, and resolve—in a slow and supported way—the body’s instinctual fight, flight, freeze, and collapse responses. Individuals locked in anxiety or rage then relax into a growing sense of peace and safety. Those stuck in depression gradually find their feelings of hopelessness and numbness transformed into empowerment, triumph, and mastery. SE catalyzes corrective bodily experiences that contradict those of fear and helplessness and seeks to restore a sense of aliveness and pleasure. This resets the nervous system, restores inner balance, enhances resilience to stress, and increases people’s vitality, equanimity, and capacity to actively engage in life.

Stored physiology of traumatic events can cause the following symptoms:

  • Hyperarousal (difficulty breathing, increased heart rate, racing thoughts, etc.)
  • Hyper vigilance a.k.a. being on guard 24/7
  • Intrusive imagery and flashbacks
  • Hyperactivity and restlessness
  • Startled responses to sudden movements or loud noises
  • Feelings of helplessness and depression
  • Abrupt mood swings
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Panic attacks
  • Excessive anger

Somatic experiencing is a therapeutic approach that explores how the body responded at the time of the traumatic event (fight, flight, or freeze), along with the associated energy and cognitions that have remained trapped in trauma time. For example, if someone tried to attack you, you would likely experience a physiological flight response— attempting to flee, going into complete shock, your body being paralyzed in fear, etc. All of these responses are instinctual and not chosen by the affected person, so this energy can often get trapped in the nervous system, causing the body to relive the physiological experience of the trauma over and over again. Ultimately, somatic experiencing seeks to release you of these stored physiological responses so you can heal and thrive again.

INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS THERAPY

Internal Family Systems therapy is a non-pathologizing approach to psychotherapy. It emphasizes the natural multiplicity of the mind. Internal Family Systems is a form of psychotherapy that focuses on a client’s internal “parts” and “Self.” In IFS, the mind is considered to be naturally made up of multiple aspects, parts, or sub-personalities or families within each individual’s mental system. These sub-personalities take on different roles, such as protective parts of the personality for example an inner critic or an inner child part of the personality that may hold wounds and painful feelings like shame. The goal of IFS is to help clients access their core Self so that they can heal wounded parts and bring their minds into balance. IFS is an evidence-based practice used to treat a range of mental health disorders including anxiety, depression, PTSD, substance abuse, and eating disorders.

Anxiety

Anxiety is an emotion characterized by overwhelming feelings of tension, fear, and frequent worrying. People who struggle with anxiety typically experience recurrent intrusive thoughts or avoid certain situations that might result in physical symptoms (sweating, dizziness, rapid heartbeat, etc.) 

Restoring Clarity Counseling seeks to remedy anxiety by viewing it through the lens of a preoccupation with the past— “I can’t believe I did that” or “I failed back then”— or the unforeseeable future. In every attempt to view life through the lens of the present again, I help you examine how your thinking impacts your mood and shapes your behaviors. Together, you will practice strategies to refocus the mind in order to be calm and root yourself in a given moment, as well as experimental exercises of grounding and centering to locate peace of mind and body. These containment skills will allow you to separate yourself from the anxiety you are experiencing and no longer be controlled by it. 

Through the use of somatic experiencing, this body-based anxiety will be released from wherever it remains trapped. 

Anxiety is an emotion characterized by overwhelming feelings of tension, fear, and frequent worrying. People who struggle with anxiety typically experience recurrent intrusive thoughts or avoid certain situations that might result in physical symptoms (sweating, dizziness, rapid heartbeat, etc.) 

Restoring Clarity Counseling seeks to remedy anxiety by viewing it through the lens of a preoccupation with the past— “I can’t believe I did that” or “I failed back then”— or the unforeseeable future. In every attempt to view life through the lens of the present again, I help you examine how your thinking impacts your mood and shapes your behaviors. Together, you will practice strategies to refocus the mind in order to be calm and root yourself in a given moment, as well as experimental exercises of grounding and centering to locate peace of mind and body. These containment skills will allow you to separate yourself from the anxiety you are experiencing and no longer be controlled by it. 

Through the use of somatic experiencing, this body-based anxiety will be released from wherever it remains trapped. 

Anxiety is an emotion characterized by overwhelming feelings of tension, fear, and frequent worrying. People who struggle with anxiety typically experience recurrent intrusive thoughts or avoid certain situations that might result in physical symptoms (sweating, dizziness, rapid heartbeat, etc.) 

Restoring Clarity Counseling seeks to remedy anxiety by viewing it through the lens of a preoccupation with the past— “I can’t believe I did that” or “I failed back then”— or the unforeseeable future. In every attempt to view life through the lens of the present again, I help you examine how your thinking impacts your mood and shapes your behaviors. Together, you will practice strategies to refocus the mind in order to be calm and root yourself in a given moment, as well as experimental exercises of grounding and centering to locate peace of mind and body. These containment skills will allow you to separate yourself from the anxiety you are experiencing and no longer be controlled by it. 

Through the use of somatic experiencing, this body-based anxiety will be released from wherever it remains trapped. 

Anxiety is an emotion characterized by overwhelming feelings of tension, fear, and frequent worrying. People who struggle with anxiety typically experience recurrent intrusive thoughts or avoid certain situations that might result in physical symptoms (sweating, dizziness, rapid heartbeat, etc.) 

Restoring Clarity Counseling seeks to remedy anxiety by viewing it through the lens of a preoccupation with the past— “I can’t believe I did that” or “I failed back then”— or the unforeseeable future. In every attempt to view life through the lens of the present again, I help you examine how your thinking impacts your mood and shapes your behaviors. Together, you will practice strategies to refocus the mind in order to be calm and root yourself in a given moment, as well as experimental exercises of grounding and centering to locate peace of mind and body. These containment skills will allow you to separate yourself from the anxiety you are experiencing and no longer be controlled by it. 

Through the use of somatic experiencing, this body-based anxiety will be released from wherever it remains trapped. 

Couples Counseling

Do you want to rebuild the bond you once had? Do you not even know where you lost it? Are you afraid that your relationship will never grow into what you’ve both imagined? 

Couples who attend therapy regularly find that they are able to heal their wounds and learn a communicative language, allowing their bond to strengthen. Restoring Clarity Counseling seeks to assist couples with developing an understanding of the relationship patterns that create conflict, as well as to implement the necessary repairs. 

The goal of couples counseling is to gain insight and develop new strategies that allows the relationship to grow. It is never too late to work on repairs and rebuild trust, and with me, couples can develop a compassionate approach to their relationship once again. 

Grief

Losing someone is an experience our hearts and minds simply cannot comprehend. For some, the pain, memories, and residual questions are entirely unbearable and result in shock or numbness. 

Grief counseling can assist you with processing the traumatic experience of losing a loved one and allow you a safe space to express the emotions you’ve pent up for so long. 

Often times, clients express how rare it is to experience an opportunity to freely talk about their loved one and express how losing them has impacted them on a daily basis. Restoring Clarity Counseling seeks to normalize that opportunity by holding a sacred space for this communication free of consequences or shame. 

Empowerment Coaching

I know you all too well. You have put a lot of pressure on yourself, haven’t you? You’re bright, ambitious, and driven, but this often results in your pushing yourself too hard day in and day out. All of that perfecting and performing is wearing on you, and you never feel like you measure up. 

I see you. You are lonely, exhausted, and simply fed up. You don’t have space for yourself anymore, just the things you hope to achieve. 

Every so often, you take the risk to let go of this constant striving, but then you worry how others will perceive you. A failure? A quitter? A weak link?

Before you know it, you’ve instead taken on another project or meeting or client or conference. You just keep on numbing the pain of ignoring your own needs, and the weight of the pressure stacks up on your shoulders. 

I’ve been there before. I’ve lived this story before. I’ve believed it was my destiny for too long before realizing it wasn’t at all. 

Here is something you don’t hear very often: Let ME help YOU. Let me teach you to courageously transform these patterns and beliefs. Let me send you daily inspiration and exercises to keep you going. Let me teach you how to crush all that self-doubt.

Empowerment coaching targets these core patterns…

  • Perfectionism and comparisons
  • Shame and guilt
  • Fear of losing control
  • People pleasing
  • Fear of setting boundaries
  • Fear of expressing feelings
  • Fear of authenticity
  • Numbness and suppressing of emotions 

…and transforms them into these healthy behaviors:

  • Motivation 
  • Unapologetically being yourself
  • Effectively communicating what you want and need
  • Experiencing your worth and value
  • Embracing connection
  • Unwavering confidence
  • Trusting your own instincts
  • Daring to take risks

Read more about the difference between therapy and empowerment coaching here.

Eating Disorders and Addictions

Restoring Clarity Counseling views eating disorders and addictions as an individual’s “solution” of an underlying problem. But rather than solving anything, this addictive or disordered behavior operates as a mere coping mechanism and only numbs a person from facing the true source of pain. 

I seek to assist clients with gaining the strength to utilize healthier coping mechanisms, while simultaneously working to pinpoint the source of the pain. I work with clients to reconcile this unresolved pain and and develop an understanding of the factors contributing to this unhealthy response. 

Behavioral rehearsals are utilized to “try on” new behaviors, while also practicing new strategies to manage residual distress. We will work on developing self-acceptance, self-compassion, and mindfulness and learn how to control urges more effectively through the Dialectical Behavior Therapy model. 

Note: Individuals seeking treatment from an eating disorder are expected to work collaboratively with a dietician and medical provider while committing to weekly counseling sessions. 

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